The Dutch book “40+ Homo’s: Gay Midlife” hits the bull’s eye. Anyone just over forty can no longer consider themselves part of the younger generation, nor do they belong to the older generation just yet. In this age bracket, people start looking back and consider what life possibly has in store for them.
Author Philip Meelhuysen argues that getting older is totally different for gays compared to straight people. He is also 40+, and can speak from experience how it feels to experience one’s midlife crisis. Intelligently, he writes about getting older from personal experience and after extensive interviews with 40+ gays.
It turns out this process is different for gays. He deals with difficult issues, such as what to do when you don’t get any attention anymore in a gay bar, or what it means still being single in this special age bracket. He knows how to approach the problem of ageing in a direct but extremely light-hearted way.
The author has done extensive field research and interviewed many people in the target group. A wonderful achievement in order to shape theory, practice and personal experience in a clear and open way. With his book, the author lifts the taboo on gay midlife. It certainly is a milestone.
My conclusion is that gay midlife does offer extra challenges, but Philip Meelhuysen stresses that it isn’t as bad as it looks. The book certainly gave me some useful insights.
The wisdom of age wrapped in a book is the perfect gift for friends.
Philip Meelhuysen, 40+ homo’s: Gay Midlife, Uithoorn: Karakter Publishers, 2016, 256. ISBN 9789045211497, € 17,99, pages,
available at Vrolijk, www.vrolijk.nu