During the latest Amsterdam Leather Pride various SM workshops were given under the auspices of the Amsterdam Kink Academy, such as on Saturday, October 24, 2015, the workshops Cock & Ball Torture, Electro Play, Predicament Bondage, and Fear. About the workshop Fear I want to say the following.
I, Master Rajko, found it irresponsible what happened there. From a SM workshop, participants expect to learn something that they can do, safely, at their own home. And from a workshop Fear you can expect that you will learn how you can get a slave to his knees with a psychological game. Threatening with something frightening can enhance the experience of a SM slave tremendously. But such a psychological game should never harm, or increase the risk of accidents.
Workshop leader Mason, with irresponsible megalomania, demonstrated the Leather Pride workshop Fear. A tethered slave had to get Fear. It started with harmless fun when Mason threatened to shave off the slave’s hair with clippers. The slave didn’t want this, he was clearly proud of his hair.
But then the workshop leader pulled out a large real knife. He put the tip of the sharp knife literally against the eye / the pupil, to frighten the slave. If the slave had moved forward just one millimeter, there would have been eye damage. In the private sphere, I think this is already unacceptable, but definitely in a public workshop. Certainly in SM play accidents can easily happen, so the participants have to be extra careful to prevent these risks. And certainly not advocate it, or encourage others.
Firstly, it is prohibited to enter a bar with a large knife. And if you then use it in a dangerous way, this is not a serious workshop anymore. I assume that the hosting bars knew nothing about the precise content of the workshops. That is why I have tried to contact the organization of the Leather Pride asking me to call on the complaint. They did not respond. Therefore this public letter, with the kind but firm request not and never ever to repeat this workshop.
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Reaction from the Amsterdam Kink Academy
Knife-play, gun-play, edge-play, or the idea of breaking a submissive are not uncommon fantasies in the BDSM world. The objective of this workshop was not to show things that people could directly try at home, but to give people the opportunity to experience a submissive being broken without being a part of the scene. Seeing the reality versus the fantasy will have given some people second thoughts about pursuing this kind of play without trying it for themselves in a less safe environment. Not every kink is for everyone and we are sorry if you were shocked by what you saw.
All AKA workshop stress the safety aspects relating to the type of subjects covered by the workshops, and this workshop was no exception. At the beginning it was clearly stated that this was “Consensual Non-Consent” and that concepts such as “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” and “Risk-Aware Consensual Kink” did not apply. It was also stressed, before and after the demonstration, that the partners involved should know each other extremely well.
The men giving the workshop were Sparky, his life-partner Master Olivier (who both have degrees in psychology), and their good friend, Master Mason. They have all known each other for many years playing and teaching BDSM classes. While Master Mason worked on breaking Sparky, Master Olivier gave a running commentary on which technique was used at each point and gave feedback to Master Mason on his partner’s state of mind.
In order to instil fear, violence is often needed and everything must look as realistic as possible. The aforementioned knife was also pressed firmly point first between the ribs. If the knife was actually as sharp as it looked, it would have slid into his body, but Sparky’s skin was never broken.
The description of Master Mason is the sender’s opinion. I know Master Mason as a redneck biker who calls it like he sees it, as an expert in his type of play, and as a loving father and husband.
We will take all comments, good and bad, about our workshops into account for the next time, but we feel we should inform people about the more extreme (and risky) kinds of BDSM play, precisely because they are more risky.
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